Recent social networking news has me thinking and I’m really getting pissed off.

There’s the 13 year old girl named Megan who took her life because she met a person she believed to be a real boy on MySpace, which is a “social” website. When he broke it off with her, she killed herself. What she didn’t know was the boy was

…created by members of a neighborhood family that included a former friend of Megan’s.

Run a search for kids who kill themselves or are killed due to Facebook or MySpace incidents and you’ll find plenty of horrible stories. Not only are young people committing suicide, but in some cases, their own parents punish social site users by killing them. This was the case for this poor Facebook girl shot by her father.

Recently a young man announced he was going to kill himself, and in front of a live cam, took an overdose of pills, laid down on a bed and proceeded to pass away while viewers watched.

Biggs’ family was infuriated that no one acted sooner to save him, neither the viewers nor the Web site that hosted the live video, Justin.tv. The Web site shows a video image, with a space alongside where computer users can instantly post comments.

Thinking all this was new, I discovered this event from 2005, in which a teenager posts a suicide note and kills himself but first, leaves instructions on where to find him in his MySpace page. Two hours after he died, he was being eulogized on his web site.

What the hell is happening?

Who is responsible?

I keep thinking that the CEO’s and inventors of social media and social networking never imagined their ideas would cause the deaths of so many people, especially young people. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if something I put online was an instrument of death. I’d take the web site down.

But, the owners of MySpace and Facebook are making millions in revenue. I wouldn’t expect them to let that money stop flowing even when the blood of innocent people is spilled for it.

What about dating sites? How many people live and die or have good days and bad days depending on how many people respond to their profile?

What gets me is how the Internet is helping sick people find outlets for their bad behaviors. It’s easy to sound intelligent and place a veil over mental illness. Social conversation is the perfect way to spread hatred, conduct revenge, control conversations through covert editing and playing out every possible drama. There’s always an audience of inexperienced people who can be snared and trapped. There’s always going to be unstable people with no self worth willing to place their lives in the hands of people who merely type words.

I find myself saying the same thing I do when children are scared by movies or TV shows.

“It’s all fake. It’s all pretend. None of it is true.”

I wish more social site owners were compassionate enough to remind their users that their sites are not reality. Before you go any further with this so-called “social” experiment, I suggest you STOP, STEP BACK and consider what people are doing with your web site experiments. They’re abusing them.

What are you going to do about it?

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The Sounds in My House

by cre8pc on November 26, 2008 · 0 comments

in Family Life

I live in a house that looks small on the outside but is surprisingly abundant when you’re on the inside. It’s a Cape Cod style, which traditionally have small rooms and the attics are turned into second floor bedrooms. My house was once a rancher, but the previous owners added a “dormer” second floor, which acts today as the entire Master bedroom, large bathroom, walk-in closet and another small room off the closet for more storage.

It’s from this second floor that I often write from because it’s the quietest room.  Even though there is a desktop PC, it’s hidden in an armoire wardrobe piece adapted into a computer desk.  There is a small TV. And piles of books, which are like my babies. I’m lost without my books.
I come upstairs to escape the sounds of my house.  Married to a computer geek who works in fields related to my own, the house is expertly networked with not only servers and shared drives, but there’s every imaginable game except for the Wii.  The only reason a Wii isn’t in this house is the rooms are too small and I was afraid someone would get whacked in the jaw while playing.

Friends of ours have a much larger, roomy house.  This couple and their kids are a lot like my family.  We’re close in age, our kids are the same ages and our jobs are all somehow related. Their house is big enough for a “no tech zone” in their living room. This room has no computers and no TV.  In my house, the living room has a large TV (not plasma) for the PS3, which is also set up as a computer monitor.  From the living room I typically hear speeding cars, grenades going off, men screaming, shooting guns and every possible weird beep ever invented.  On any given night, my husband is in a PS3 game trance while the youngest son is playing Playstation games on a hand-held device on the couch.  The books on the coffee table are mine.

Our finished basement is large and broken up into sections. One of those sections is my office. It’s tidy and cozy.  There are several book cases, my desktop, desk, filing cabinets and the wood stove, which keeps it warm because there’s no other heat source in the basement.

Another section is the family room equipped with a corner bar that stores bulk food from Costco and a pretty fish tank that gurgles. This is where “The Dudes” hang.  Most weekends, from sun up to sun down, there is a group of teen age boys singing “American Woman” or “Spirit in the Sky” along with RockBand2. The visiting boys bring their RockBand guitars.  In the evenings, after homework is done (because that’s the rule!), the house is filled with song after song from RockBand2.  I never need a radio while making dinner anymore.  All I need to do is leave the door open to the basement and I listen to the boys.

Living in the country, the sounds of my house change with the seasons.  In the springtime, the birds start singing by the thousands as soon as the sun begins to rise.  With the windows open in early fall nights I can hear the high school band playing during football games.  Summer nights always bring sounds of cars from the distant highway.  The road that goes in front of my house is annoying. We never should have bought a house so close to a road.  I totally forgot that kids turn up the base in their cars, really loud.

I visited another friend this morning. Her house is sheer chaos all the time.  She has more kids than I do.  Our teenage boys are best friends.  Her house has peeling paint, dents in the walls, clutter everywhere and is a rush of kids and pets all the time.  Today when I see her, she’s flopped on a couch with her laptop, hair piled on her head, mascara smeared under her eyes and beaming with contentment as the sounds of RockBand2 ooze up from her basement.

As I walk out to my car, after fiddling with their broken front door handle and dodging toys in the hallway, I smile to myself.   I feel a kinship with her. Our houses are our safe comfort zones.  Our homes are always busy and filled with kids and our kids’ friends.  She and I both taxi our kids to their sports games, band practices, and we typically travel with kids in tow and our dogs in our cars.

If it ever got quiet, we’d be bored out of our minds.

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